So you and your lover, special someone, significant other, spouse have decided to enter the wildly exciting lifestyle by attending an event but are you prepared? Get excited, we are about to share some great tips to help make your first experience way better :)
First things first. Communicate with each other before you start planning to actually attend an event. I’ve seen couples get so excited, nervous or just overcome with anticipation that they miss out on the important things with their partner(s).
Things to talk about prior to attending a lifestyle event:
Rules you may want to set with each other about what is acceptable. Even the most meek can completely come out of their shell once in a lifestyle scene, surprising their partner. Set some guides so you know what to expect from each other and if you have any boundaries, talk about them. Be on the same page.
Expectations you have from not only the experience but also from your partner. You may be surprised about what your partner is hoping to get from the experience. This one couple attended an event. The husband was excited to see his wife with other men, she couldn’t let go and enjoy where the night was going because she was excited about a possible bi-experience. You can imagine the disappointment they both felt during the event simply because they didn’t really talk first.
What you are hoping to get out of the experience. Is this something you have wanted to do your whole life that feels like home to you or are you someone who just wants to try everything once?
Is this a one time thing or are you looking to continue with the lifestyle. Consider kids if you have them or plan to have them. Will you be open with your new lifestyle or keep things private? One couple just recently had a public argument because the husband couldn’t wait to talk about the experience they had the night before and was not shy to share with random people. The wife was really upset because they had apparently agreed to not share plus their daughters were within earshot.
Who are you going to share your new adventure with? Do you know other couples that are currently in the lifestyle? Are you ok with the possibility that this experience with them could potentially change your relationship? I was with a group once who are very tight. They went to each others kids soccer games, etc. Everyone seemed to get along great but it was also very entwined with their vanilla life.
These are just some of the things you should consider with your partner(s) before you enter into a lifestyle event.